The Brain Scrub

We apparently live in a more 'connected world'. Through the internet, answers and friends are at our finger tips. What are we possibly missing out on with this reality? According to some studies, North Americans have high rates of depression. Could this be one of the causes? Is this reality creating the opposite of connection - disconnection and loneliness?

Many of us are driven to do better, try harder, be our best, and in many cases, all on our own. In this episode we explore the power of ordinary with community in mind.

Jeff works with Glen in the episode on his need to force dialogue in order to feel safe. It's important to note that beliefs we have, either limit or enable our behaviors - hence the dialogue on trying to shift them from what we learned earlier in life. 

I am pleased to introduce a new co-host. Jeff and I have been amazing friends since 2006 and both have self-awareness experience. many challenges we faced, and as a result, have become stronger men resulting in greater authenticity. We have learned about the power of personal agency and I am looking forward on taking on this new journey with a dear friend and at times, my support person. This episode is about the power of social connection.

My wife and I recently returned from Vietnam, a communist country. I took many valuable lessons away but the main one was, how life is so much more content and peaceful when you know everyone has your best interests in mind. This not only reduces worry, fear, greed, the unhoused, but also attachment to negative thinking. Three weeks here provided me an opportunity to start letting go and trusting. I commit to doing my best to continue this and overcome my limiting beliefs.

10 tips on what I am and have used to live into my best life and one of self-love and gratitude.

Many parents find out about this criminal like act after its too late. My hope is that this song makes a difference in this World. https://sonauto.ai/song/53e1ed50-5bac-408b-903b-7a2c6f1f4b85
 
Youtube: https://youtu.be/YgoEmfXbq0k?si=iTui3_lLz50gImb8
Original Lyrics:
Like a coward I lived my early life,Never could stand up to an abusive x wife
Guys like me sometimes learn too late,Feared speaking up in a cloud of hate.
Then you were born and I loved your touch,Playing around, being goofy, i adored you so much,
When you were four your mom left me,Thank god, she set a coward free.
We lived separate lives and I found new love,An integrated family was something I could never dream of.
I parented you in a fog of fear,Your mom didn’t trust me so wanted you near.Never seemed to have time alone,Constantly being checked up on monitored via telephone,Are you safe, are you okay, Did your dad take care of you today.Never free to be with you,I always felt I was being scolded by a shrew.
Day by day it ate me away,As she threatened to take you one day.
When the Lion in me was set free,I expressed to her a clear boundary.
That was the day this all went to shit,3 months later you recited your moms break away skit.
I tried to fight for you,In the midst of threats if I do.
Sadly the court listened to lies,Many targeted parents like me cast aside.
I will never give up on you and me,Despite estranging my whole family.
Parental Alienation I suspect is at play,Many like me likely won’t see out kid another day.
What is left are broken hearts,Believing the lies, not the smarts.
Fabricating stories to make one’s claim,And displaying behaviours of no personal blame,
I wish I knew back then what Is share in this song,I missed out on your life for far too long
History repeats itself i now realize,Fatherless kids may have the same demise.
When one is faced with silence and lies,Rationality and justice won’t listen to the cries.
One can’t beat the anger, ego, and hate,The other may have a disorder and have power to manipulate.
My wish for you and me,Is we grow up with less insecurity.
Should I die before we get old,Please fight against alienation be bold.
You will always be part of me,On that note, for now I will set me free.To all those abandoned parents out there, please stand strong,Be brave, be bold, live your best life and share this song.
Chorus:
Stealing a child from a loving parent that cares,Not working together so both can share,A family law system that refuses to see the light,Another child, parent and family never to unite.

Whether you lost connection with a friend, sibling, or your child, it's a good time to reflect on what you can learn about yourself and whether your actions or inactions had anything to do with it. Of course, parental alienation cases are far more difficult as you may be dealing with an alienating parent that is out to get you, one that has a high conflict personality, or one who is determined to meet their agenda: I win - you lose.
This episode is about the power of Internal Family Systems understanding and therapy, amongst other things.